this will be a play by play account of how to move on from said person or persons as the case maybe 

I was 18 when I first started researching the human brain, the reason being I couldn’t shake this guy, he clearly wasn’t into me but, there’s a long history here as to why I had high hopes, most of them not were not misplaced either.  I remember acting like a really silly or highly ’emotional’ person at this age Everything seemed tough when it came to romance, with loads of reading life got, less complex. I hope these videos and books help others in similar situations. 

The human paradox is a great book, it pretty much will help you understand when things go ‘astray’ you mightn’t always behave the way you ..ahh ‘should’. This book allows you to understand how emotional reactions to logical (rational) situation aren’t always the best ones.

When we gather facts and use human sides / more developed parts of the brian we are able to make better reactions. 

You can tell if the ‘chimp’ is in control by how many times you are feeling ways that you don’t want to, situations such as feeling anxiety when your at a party or have to do a speech, this is non logical emotion and is a good indicator that your ‘chimp’ at the wheel. 

This guy, if I’m honest wasn’t amazing or super smart, he was basically just not into me (anymore) and due to the fact we had to work together I was still in contact with him. 

I still remember emailing him about a guest list issue that we had to sort out, where he had someone else respond for him… ouch right? 

Anyway flash forward 2 months and I am pining over this same dude. Here I was all-of-18-years-of-age me being consumed by him, he’s facebook was my newest ‘hotspot’ and I am telling you now, I was an avid patron.. It was sad and I was bleek, this man wanted nothing to do with me, so than why couldn’t I let it ‘go’.

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I researched why we want what we can’t have an as it turns out there is a perfectly reasonable explanation it also involves cocaine, have you ever noticed how cocaine and receptors in the brain are always paired together, it’s the chicken of brain world.  

Here is the first link to the mass of information I am about to unleash upon you, http://love and cocaine

I was not in love with Jack at all – I knew that I wasn’t, but I also couldn’t get over this. So, I read and watched Ted Talks until I knew what to do about it. 

Firstly, I time limited how long I thought about him 15 minutes in the morning was all I gave myself

Secondly, I did other stuff – spent some more time at the gym and started not being where he was (Friday nights SoHo were no longer for me) 

Thirdly, I stopped talking about him, when my friends brought him up I changed the subject and got over him. 

This experience taught me that not everyone can give you the advice you need I needed a “he will never want you ever again’, type of dealio, but no one was able to tell me this. I asked him to tell me if we ‘could ever be together’ he said no, and you know what..  I can’t blame him, I was a hard work! I will say this much though using the high lighted steps are always good, if you can get over anyone.